What's the story I want to tell?

Published by Eric Hiler on August 10, 2021

One of the most clarifying questions I know is: What's the story I want to tell?

To be clear, this isn't spinning a good yarn story-telling. This is: What is the honest, authentic story I want to be able to tell after this is all over and everything is public?

Many times leaders have to make decisions on their own or with only a small group of people available to speak into them. This is a lonely place for the leader. Big decisions with far-reaching impact require a lot of thought and careful consideration. Sometimes the options for which path to pursue going forward are entirely divergent, where you're literally choosing a future.

There are dozens of factors for the mind to weigh, and this is where so many of us spend most, if not all, of our time. Doing the calculus. Running the numbers. Optimizing on the upside. Trying to get the best possible outcome.

There are dozens of other factors for the heart to weigh. Some of us just ignore them. Some of us think about them but are easily distracted. The best of us start here at the heart, considering the character-level considerations for making a major decision. I have to admit... that's not always my starting point, no matter how much I want it to be or how hard I try.

What's the story I want to tell? is a question that clarifies the relevant heart matters and calms the mind. I've found that I make better decisions when I take the time to sincerely consider and answer this question.